Author: Daniel Sherwin, Founder of DadSolo.com
All new parents say it’s the most wonderful, yet most difficult job they’ve ever had. Parents of twins, however, face unique parenting challenges. It’s true that twins bring double the joy. They also bring double the diapers, double the feedings, and double the challenges. This is how to handle those challenges and enjoy your chaotic life with multiples.
- Consider Your Budget
Having twins means increased costs. Consider buying diapers, baby wipes, and other essentials in bulk. You won’t need to buy double everything, at least not immediately. You can get by with one crib until your babies roll over. You also can wait to buy high chairs until your twins sit up and eat solid foods. Prioritize what you need and don’t feel that you need to buy two of everything immediately. Then, supplement your income by selling the clothes, bouncers, and other items they outgrow.
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- Accept Help
When your twins arrive, don’t expect to be able to do it all on your own. All new parents need help, and you will need even more since you are caring for two bundles of joy. Lisa Spiegel, the director of Soho Parenting, recommends taking a few days with your babies to connect and decide what help you need most. In the meantime, gladly accept meals from friends, family, and neighbors.
After taking a few days to settle into your home as a family, allow close friends and family members to visit and help. Avoid getting overwhelmed by limiting the number of visitors. Eventually, you’ll know exactly what to say when people ask what they can do. Don’t hesitate to give them a list of groceries, household chores, or addresses to help you send thank-you notes. You do not need to do this on your own, and you will be able to function much better if you take advantage of the help that is offered so that you can get some rest.
- Strive to Get Into Routines
Patience and forgiveness are a must when you first bring your twins home. You and your spouse will be exhausted, and the new mother will need time to recuperate and heal. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t know what day it is, what time it is, or even which end is up during the first few days. As you get to know your twins, you will figure out what works best for all of you.
The goal is to get into routines as soon as possible because having two babies on different feeding and sleeping schedules will make your life nearly impossible. If you’re lucky, the hospital will have begun to establish routines for your babies, but they may come home on different schedules. If that is the case, Twiniversity recommends slowly adjusting feeding times until they match. The same goes for their nap schedules. Slowly adjust nap times and bedtimes until they match as well. You will be amazed at how much easier life becomes when your twins are on the same schedule.
- Babyproof Your Home to Ensure Safety
If possible, you should babyproof your home before your twins arrive. You will have much more time and a much clearer head to ensure you don’t overlook anything. Your babies will be rolling over, crawling, pulling themselves up, and walking before you know it. And, because you will have two curious little ones, the danger really doubles. You must create a safe environment for them by babyproofing your home long before your twins become mobile.
According to HomeAdvisor, you should approach baby-proofing your entire home by considering how to prevent injuries, how to help your children avoid certain materials and substances, how to remodel to ensure your children’s safety, and how to eliminate strangulation and suffocation hazards. For example, secure heavy furniture to walls to prevent falls and serious injuries or death. Use outlet covers to prevent accidental electrocution. Keep all electrical and blind cords out of your twins’ reach.
You will wonder how to manage having twins and then wonder how you lived without them. To transition to parenting twins more easily, consider your budget and accept help. Then, get into routines and finish babyproofing.